Newlyweds undergo an adjustment phase sometimes characterised by a power struggle, disenchantment, balancing expectations with real life, and the like. The success of the marriage would depend on their ability to successfully navigate these areas in the earlier years of the relationship.
Repeatedly, when I have the opportunity to talk with married couples who are honest and willing to share about struggles in their early years of marriage, it reminds me of how lucky we were when we started our marriage journey.
WE LEARNT THE EASY WAY; it was a rare opportunity many do not have/take – we had gone through counselling that helped us;
1) Decide if our relationship has the qualities that are necessary to build a happy and fulfilling life together.
2) Develop a framework for building a healthy marriage
3) Objectively evaluate our ideas and expectations for marriage
4) We learned the skills necessary for creating the home we wanted.
5) We identified unhealthy patterns or tendencies in ourselves and how to change them.
Some couples successfully go through this learning curve, but many do not. They get lost in the woods and struggle for the rest of the life of the marriage.
John Mason said, ‘Life is too short to go through all the experiences yourself – learn from other people’s experiences.’
Going through pre-marital counselling can help significantly increase the chances of your marital success and save you a lot of heartache and disappointments.
As you prepare to get married, our pre-marital program – ‘Before the Aisle’, will teach you these and more.
Are you going to apply yourself to the immense benefits available through counselling?