I woke up a few weeks ago feeling sad as I watched helplessly a marriage disintegrate. In truth, the relationship had failed years earlier – we are just seeing the external manifestation.
In the construction industry, we define building failure as a crack in any structural element (columns, beams, foundation, and roof members). This definition helps save lives because remedial work can prevent ultimate collapse.
If we could look at marriage and define failure this way, it would help save more homes. In the West, statistics show that couples wait an average of six years before seeking help for their marriage challenges.
Here in Africa, we probably wait longer because of our culture and beliefs.
Time is of the essence.
In marriage, the couple builds protective ‘walls’ of safety, separating their relationship from others. However, the couple should create a window to access help when an issue threatens the marriage, then close it afterward.
Without understanding the importance of creating this window on time, we would ‘close up’ to the destruction of a relationship that would have otherwise been a beautiful love story.
Your relationship deserves an opportunity to flourish; if you act now, you can save your home.