Most times, you can’t help who you get attracted to, but you can spot a relationship that will not be so fulfilling. Sometimes, these signs can come up later in the relationship – when you hit a rough patch, but more often, you can see these small red flags from the beginning. Below are some […]
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Last week in my post on ‘The Art of Listening,’ I mentioned that we could use self-calming skills to help us while listening, but what are these skills, and how can we use them? Many of us already use these tools consciously sometimes. Self-soothing is the ability for one to calm themselves down after being
I woke up a few weeks ago feeling sad as I watched helplessly a marriage disintegrate. In truth, the relationship had failed years earlier – we are just seeing the external manifestation. In the construction industry, we define building failure as a crack in any structural element (columns, beams, foundation, and roof members). This definition
John Mason said in his book ‘The enemy called average’ that ‘life is too short to experience everything yourself’ – learn from other people’s experiences. The same is for marriage; even though our challenges in relationships do not always come in the same forms, the wisdom of older couples can help newlyweds in no small
My earlier days with getting my daughter prepared for school and dressed for the cold often went something like this; Me; Eta the weather is cold, wear your cardigan Eta; I am not feeling cold, I don’t need the cardigan Me; please take your cardigan Eta; No Me; You are not leaving this house without
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The second reason people may have a challenge handling their conflict is their conflict resolution styles. There are three kinds of conflict resolution styles; the fighter, the avoider, and the resolver. THE FIGHTER: The fighter is that person who would generally have a screaming match. They say what they feel like they feel it, and
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Mary and her husband, David, are having another fight. Mary had only recently resigned her job to become a stay home mother to their two young kids; this was a decision she was happy-making, but the transition has not been smooth. She has become very irritable lately, and David frustrated with their many fights. As
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During the very first year of our marriage, we were out with other family members, and my husband made a joke that everyone laughed at but me. When we were finally home I told him I wasn’t happy with the joke he made because I felt it put me in a bad light, he was
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Ever so often, couples have quarrels or conflicts where they say mean things to each other, criticise each other and are defensive. These words could hurt the partners and gradually destroy the relationship from within. But successful couple know how dangerous these words said in anger can be and what exactly to do about it
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Over the last couple of weeks, I have been thinking a lot about foundations. Because of my work in the construction industry, I understand the critical role foundation plays. Many factors come to play in the selection of the type of foundation some are; the bearing capacity (strength) of the soil on which the building
LAYING THE FOUNDATION OF A LIFETIME. Read More »
